Updated: Feb 25
This year I was realistic with myself: there's no way I'm keeping resolutions. Never have, probably not going to start now. But I have a problem. I'm sooooo tired of feeling like I am a slave to the "stuff" in my house, felling constantly behind on everything, and too exhausted to feed my family healthy home cooked meals consistently. I've reached the point where I just can't keep doing the same broken routine anymore.
I have been reading a lot about habits, and how they shape our lives. Over the last year I have started implementing small habits daily, and to my surprise they stick. Small changes compound into big changes over time. These small habits (especially pertaining to running our household) snowball into bigger changes, and soon things are running more smoothly.
This is my goal for the first 90 days of this year, and for this challenge we will complete together. Form small habits and systems to support them to eliminate tedious decisions every day, practice discipline, and learn how to finally run my household well.
Week One: The Bedroom
I wanted to start off with a bang. I thought "Let's go straight to meal planning and making gourmet meals every night", because that is the most glaring issue for me at the moment. That kind of misses the point though. We need small habits, and we need to actually win instead of set ourselves up for failure. Resistance will be there for us no matter what, but we are going to take baby steps as we destroy the giant (after all, Goliath was felled by a boy with a sling shot and a rock).
Have you heard the expression "your room is a reflection of your mind?". The reason we are tackling our bedroom first is because it can be less daunting of a space to get in order than, say, the kitchen and all that entails, and more so because if we make our room a place of order and tranquility, it will greatly affect our mind. Our most intimate space in our house can reflect a change in the most intimate recesses of our minds.
Here's what we have for this week's challenge (remember, I'm supporting you all the way, and right there alongside you!):
Small Habit: Make your bed
Cue: When your feet hit the floor in the morning, make your bed.
Signal: Put a sticky note (or a giant sign) on the wall that you will see when you get out of bed to remind you to make it. Set a reminder or an alarm on your phone. i'll also be postingndaily reminders on my Instagram stories so be sure to follow along there.
Reward: Take a moment when you finish to just look at your bed and admire your work. You started your day with an accomplishment, be proud of yourself. Feel the dopamine hit that discipline and finishing a simple task brings you.
Perserverance: I don't care if you forgot to make your bed this mornign and don't remember that you were supposed to make it until you are ready for bed at night. Make it right then and there. Show up for yourself. You get to choose your hard: discipline is hard, but so are the consequences of the opposite.
Task to Accomplish: Reset your bedroom.
The goal is to make your bedroom into a sanctuary, eliminate clutter, and make it a space of rest. Tip: Get rid of things that don't serve you. Be ruthless.
Click Here to download a free printable with my bedroom reset checklist.
Take it to the Next Level: Get a clock for your nightstand and keep your phone plugged in away from the bed. Don't use your phone at night. Even better: grab a sunrise clock that wakes you with light to start your mornings feeling better.
Atomic Habits by James Clear
I'm so glad you are joining me on this journey to lasting change. This is our year!